Jessica Farrulla, The Relationship Therapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist • Certified EMDR Therapist • Specializing in First Responder Trauma EMDR, Couples Counseling, Premarital Therapy, Marriage Counseling | El Dorado Hills CA

Couples Counseling

Is your relationship or marriage in crisis or deteriorating? Or you are struggling to find ways to heal after an affair? Or maybe your relationship feels sluggish and you would describe being roommates, instead of lovers? Every relationship journeys to a crossroad where it can be useful to have a clear guide to help you heal and grow together.


Learn to communicate to your partner in ways that build connection and intimacy. Be understood by your partner in ways where you feel deeply felt. I help couples create passionate, rewarding, and lasting relationships. Many feel as though they have an open communication channel with their partner as a result of the work we do together in our sessions.

“Counseling doesn’t mean you are losing each other, it means you are fighting to keep your best friend by your side.” –A. Cassidy

I have completed training in both Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Encounter-centered Couples Therapy. I also specialize in working with First Responder couples who feel disconnected in their relationship due to the stressful demands their jobs require. I work with a wide range of couples from newlyweds to empty nesters.


Practice a new skill set where you are able to connect to your partner in a way that brings you closer together. Work stress, past trauma, daily obligations can all pollute the relational space. Couples transform their relationship by learning to encounter each other in a new way in our sessions together.


Working with me starts by taking an in-depth assessment to identify the areas of your relationship that need improvement. I create a personalized treatment plan and give you helpful tools to increase trust, intimacy, and connection in your relationship.

Intensive Couples Therapy sessions are also offered to couples who need support and counseling and want to create change in a relatively short amount of time. These sessions are available to couples in crisis who would benefit from half-day, full-day, or multi-day sessions. This is an effective way to improve communication, increase connection, and create lasting intimacy. Research shows for the brain to have a transformative experience and for lasting change to occur, sessions need to be between three to five hours. The brain is open to forming a new belief during an Intensive Couples Counseling Session, instead of staying stuck living a lie or a false belief. Your brain will grab the truth. Memory reconsolidation happens during this time as the brain rewires itself. There is actual transformation where healing occurs and you are never the same person anymore. Intensives are often used when there has been a breach of trust in the relationship, when couples are feeling stuck with no option but to divorce, or when the relationship feels stagnant.